Dealing With Separation Anxiety
Does your baby get clingy or cry when you leave him or her with a caregiver? Separation anxiety usually starts around six months and it’s a normal part of childhood development that should settle by the time your child turns three.
Part Of Development
You may feel concerned if your baby, who is usually happy to be left with a caregiver or grandparent, suddenly starts crying uncontrollably when you leave. Or perhaps your little one develops a fear of strangers and refuses to be held by someone they don’t know well or cries when you leave the room.
This development milestone means that baby now realises that she is dependent on those who care for her. She has bonded with her parents and/or primary caregiver and feels secure with them, but unsafe and anxious when she no longer sees these familiar faces.
For many parents, the situation can be very distressful. It’s heart-breaking for mom and you will likely feel guilty about leaving your baby. The important thing to realise is that this stage is a normal part of your child’s development. There will be times when you can’t be with your baby and leaving her in the care of a responsible adult is the best you can do for her. You are also providing baby with an opportunity to learn to cope without you and to help him or her understand that you always come back.
Tips For Helping Your Baby Or Toddler Cope
- While you are still on maternity leave, take the opportunity to give baby time to get used to your absence – first for short periods and then gradually longer. Leave baby with a responsible adult in a familiar environment.
- Leave a familiar object for baby – either something of his or hers, like special toy or a blanket or an item of your own clothing that has your scent on it.
- For an older baby and toddler, say goodbye and reaffirm that you will be back soon. Don’t sneak away. Greet your child. Be upbeat and smile. Don’t be anxious or delay the parting for too long.
- For a toddler, you can explain where you are going and possibly a brief explanation of why, if appropriate. Give your toddler something to look forward to. For example, a story or special play session when you return.
If you are concerned that your child isn’t coping and the situation seems to be getting worse, speak to your GP or paediatrician who will help you understand the circumstances.
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Information: https://www.nhs.uk/