It is a girl! It is a boy! Whatever the news, you are at the start of something unique and special – being a Dad!
The role, as with all important jobs, comes with duties, responsibilities, perks, and privileges. So, being a dad is not just for Christmas. Fathers play a role in their kid’s life that cannot be filled by others. It will have a huge impact and help shape him or her into the person they become. So, yes, it is daunting. But boy (or girl), the rewards are great!
Fathers are pillars in the development of a child’s emotional wellbeing. Children look to their dads to lay down the rules and enforce them. They also look to their fathers to provide a feeling of security, both physical and emotional. Children want to make their fathers proud, and an involved father promotes inner growth and strength.
Studies have shown that when fathers are affectionate and supportive, it greatly affects a child’s cognitive and social development. It also instils an overall sense of wellbeing and self-confidence.
Fathers and their daughters. A match made in heaven.
Young girls depend on their fathers for security and emotional support. A father shows his daughter what a good relationship with a man is like. If a father is loving and gentle, his daughter will look for those qualities in men when she is old enough to begin dating. If a father is strong and valiant, she will relate to men of the same character.
- Dads are the gold standard for future romantic relationships. Fathers model what their daughters learn to expect from relationships. Respectful and supportive dads who keep their promises teach their daughters to expect that in their relationships. And, divorced dads, take note! The way fathers interact with their former spouse, who is the mother of their child, is a huge influence.
- A father’s love impacts future confidence. Loving fathers who provide praise, support, and unconditional love give their daughters the gift of confidence and high self-esteem. Daughters who have these traits grow into happy, and successful adults.
- Girls with involved fathers do better academically. Girls with dads who are involved in their educations often do better in school. If dads encourage their children to do well in school, help them when they struggle academically, and give them access to tools such for getting academic assistance, kids can be amazingly successful.
- Dads encourage their daughters to be adventurous. Whether it is trying a new sport, repairing a car, or standing up to a bully, daughters often get their courage from their fathers.
Fathers and their sons. Two members of the same team.
Boys model themselves after their father’s character. This is unlike girls, who model their relationships with others based on their father’s character.
Boys will seek approval from their fathers from a very young age. If a father is caring and treats people with respect, the young boy will grow up much the same. Just as with a daughter, a dad must be an example to his son as to how to provide, nurture, and guide.
- Dads teach their sons to be gentlemen. What is so important about that? Well, for one thing, we want one half of the planet to love and respect the other. But it is not about outdated things like opening a car door. It is about treating other people, especially women, with respect, dignity, and strength.
- Fathers pass on integrity. Integrity, as the quote goes, is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. What will your son do when nobody is looking? If you are a good dad, he will do something you can be proud of.
- Sons take responsibility for their actions. Well, this, and most others points in this article, apply equally to both genders, sons, and daughters. But there are consequences to one’s actions. And in this case, sons need to be taught they have to be man enough to accept them.
- Dads can show their sons it is okay to love others. Males tend to be stingy with their displays of emotions. But a good dad can show his son that love is about being selfless, and communicative, and those are never things to be ashamed of.
These are but a smidgeon of the reasons why dads are so important to their kids. The list goes on. For a very long time.
And regardless of the circumstances, if you are married, if you are divorced, if you’re a single dad, if you have ten kids, or even if you’re just thinking about having your first, remember one thing.
You can never underestimate the impact that you will have on your children, be they a giggle of girls, a rascal of boys, or something in between.
Dads. From us, Happy Father’s Day!
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